If you really take a look at how we spend the majority of our time throughout our lives, you start to notice that we dedicate an overwhelming amount of effort to two major areas: developing and maintaining intimate relationships, and developing and maintaining a healthy work/life balance. Each of these present their own independent challenges, yet more often than not we find we’re in over our heads trying to simultaneously navigate both. This is not an easy task for anyone!
It’s probably a fair assumption that most of us have experienced a significant amount of distress, at one point or another, in regards to these two areas. From my experience, both personally and professionally, it’s when these areas of life become too overwhelming that we start to notice an increase in struggles with anxiety and depression like symptoms. In these times it’s also not uncommon for people to turn to substances (alcohol/drugs), or other unhealthy coping mechanisms in order to ease some of the discomfort experienced.
For some of us these challenges will increase and decrease in intensity, similar to the ebb and flow of the tides. For others, it may feel like the tide has always been high and you have been treading water for years. Whether temporary or persistent, reaching out for support in times of need can make all the difference. It’s not always easy, and often very scary, to make that call. But, please know that I always do my very best to create a nonjudgmental and safe space when you are ready.
Remember when you were a kid and thought the adults had it all figured out? Surprise! We’re all just doing the best we can, and it never hurts to have a little support along the way.
My approach to handling the manifestation of distress and discomfort is usually to take a long hard look at your relationships and work/life issues to discover where there might be imbalances. I wholeheartedly believe that when we work to create nurturing and supportive relationships, and work/hobbies/passions that bring about a sense of fulfillment, many of these issues start to subside. For a more detailed explanation regarding my theoretical orientation and how I conceptualize problems please see the sub-header "My Foundation" in the menu headings.
Coming Into Focus Blog
The content of MY BLOG is largely comprised of writings related to these two topics. Please feel free to have a look, and check back frequently as I update it with useful information often.