Posts tagged attachment
Developing Your Attachment Style

In a nutshell, people who are securely attached have learned to trust that other people will take care of them; that they are worthy of love and belonging. People whose experiences with a caregiver are negative or unpredictable still want connection. They still want to feel like they belong and are loved (remember, connection is a biological drive), but their experiences have led to internalizing the opposite feelings. 

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Attachment Needs

When our attachment needs are triggered it’s more often than not about wants and desires, hurt feelings, longing for closeness and support, needing to know you are important, that you matter to your partner. But, usually those needs are hard to express to a partner you feel might not get it. Or, it might not even really register with you at the time that this is what you’re actually asking for. 

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Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples

EFT is an evidence-based practice, meaning the clinical practice is based on sound research that demonstrates the effectiveness of the treatment. With more than 30 years of research on the science of adult attachment and emotional bonding, EFT provides a structured approach to couples therapy based on clear, explicit conceptualizations of what causes the cycles of distress in relationships.  

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